A discussion I got from web. What do you think??
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The root of cruelty can be traced to insensitivity. So whenever a person displays insensitivity towards other person's feelings, he/she can be said to be displaying cruelty in one form.
The myth is that women are more emotional, sensitive and soft as compared to men. But the reality is something else. Men are only used to or trained to not display their emotions openly whereas women do it very easily. It doesn't necessarily make women more emotional and sensitive than men.
A few days ago, me and my friend were talking about people whom we knew were into a love relationship. We came to a common observation that in so many cases, the girl got married to another guy, and after that completely got over this relationship they had and now lives happily in her new married life. Where as the guy couldn't get out of it. In some cases it has been 7-8 years that the guy hasn't been able to come out of it. This displays certain amount of insensitivity and cruelty.
I remember reading a few months ago in a magazine about an experiment they had conducted in the US military. People were asked to do more and more cruel things. After a certain point it was impossible for men to do the things however the women continued the things and progressed further.
These things make us wonder that should we stick on to the myth that we've been holding all these days, or should we embrace the truth?
Oct 14
ĊåŞ
This displays certain amount of insensitivity and
cruelty ....
How on earth have you come to such a conclusion?????
You have made a giant leap here haven't you????
Oct 14
SURYA~~~I CANT
Dhaka laga....
The reply you proposed to counter the myth is intself a MYTH....
I feel that there all the characters,habits that you attribute to a particular sex can never and should never be applied on individual basis......An individual's character,habits are determined by the environment that he/she lives in and the upbringing and the circumstances...
STEREOTYPING men's and women's virtues AND CATEGORISING certain attributes as that of womens' and mens' has limits...
Oct 14
SURYA~~~I CANT
By the way the so-called TESTS AND SURVEYS to determine characteristics suck....
how on earth can a test performed on a 1000 men or women detremine the general viewpoint...I detest them more often more so BECAUSE they aggravate the view some people have that psychology is pseudo...
Oct 14
SURYA~~~I CANT
as for the story....
It is common trend nowadays for INDIAN MEN to cry hoarse and complain that women today dont take their LOVE LIFES seriously and are spoilt...
But the fact is that BREAKUP in relationships are common nowadays and there are as much MEN as there are women of the type you mentioned here..
The only reason why we hear many women culprits(as you see them)is thaT women SUFFER SILENTLY whereas men TRUMPHET as if no one suffers....
I know of a personal story too..My sisters' friends loved each other for a period of time..but the boy felt otherwise about marrying each other...He now talks to her as if she were another person.....but the girl suffers silently...
Oct 14
rajesh jha
Fairer sex is also the crueler sex and also the kinder sex
Oct 14
Swati
I agree with Surya.
You cannot generalise.
Stereotyping based on a couple of incidents or surveys is not a very sensible exercise !
Anywyz, as far as the topic is concerned both men & women are equally capable of cruelty and kindness. There is no 'more' or no 'less' in this.
It depends on person to person, human to human..for the degress of kindness and cruelty he/she exhibits.
Oct 14 (2 days ago)
Fire.Bird
since women understand emotions better than men( n hence know how to distort them to taheir advantange), i somehow agree that the 'Fairer sex is also the crueler sex'
Oct 14 (2 days ago)
ĊåŞ
Nice Hair Fire
Oct 14
Praveen
Technically speaking I can't make a conclusion that the fairer sex is also the crueler sex. Personally speaking I have always observed that the fairer sex has been the crueler sex & worse does not even recognize the cruelty.
The topic starter must know that women are said to be more emotionally *Intelligent* than men. So when they said emotionally *Intelligent* they did not, repeat DID NOT mean *more* emotional, just more emotionally ***INTELLIGENT*** - Get my drift???
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The root of cruelty can be traced to insensitivity. So whenever a person displays insensitivity towards other person's feelings, he/she can be said to be displaying cruelty in one form.
The myth is that women are more emotional, sensitive and soft as compared to men. But the reality is something else. Men are only used to or trained to not display their emotions openly whereas women do it very easily. It doesn't necessarily make women more emotional and sensitive than men.
A few days ago, me and my friend were talking about people whom we knew were into a love relationship. We came to a common observation that in so many cases, the girl got married to another guy, and after that completely got over this relationship they had and now lives happily in her new married life. Where as the guy couldn't get out of it. In some cases it has been 7-8 years that the guy hasn't been able to come out of it. This displays certain amount of insensitivity and cruelty.
I remember reading a few months ago in a magazine about an experiment they had conducted in the US military. People were asked to do more and more cruel things. After a certain point it was impossible for men to do the things however the women continued the things and progressed further.
These things make us wonder that should we stick on to the myth that we've been holding all these days, or should we embrace the truth?
Oct 14
ĊåŞ
This displays certain amount of insensitivity and
cruelty ....
How on earth have you come to such a conclusion?????
You have made a giant leap here haven't you????
Oct 14
SURYA~~~I CANT
Dhaka laga....
The reply you proposed to counter the myth is intself a MYTH....
I feel that there all the characters,habits that you attribute to a particular sex can never and should never be applied on individual basis......An individual's character,habits are determined by the environment that he/she lives in and the upbringing and the circumstances...
STEREOTYPING men's and women's virtues AND CATEGORISING certain attributes as that of womens' and mens' has limits...
Oct 14
SURYA~~~I CANT
By the way the so-called TESTS AND SURVEYS to determine characteristics suck....
how on earth can a test performed on a 1000 men or women detremine the general viewpoint...I detest them more often more so BECAUSE they aggravate the view some people have that psychology is pseudo...
Oct 14
SURYA~~~I CANT
as for the story....
It is common trend nowadays for INDIAN MEN to cry hoarse and complain that women today dont take their LOVE LIFES seriously and are spoilt...
But the fact is that BREAKUP in relationships are common nowadays and there are as much MEN as there are women of the type you mentioned here..
The only reason why we hear many women culprits(as you see them)is thaT women SUFFER SILENTLY whereas men TRUMPHET as if no one suffers....
I know of a personal story too..My sisters' friends loved each other for a period of time..but the boy felt otherwise about marrying each other...He now talks to her as if she were another person.....but the girl suffers silently...
Oct 14
rajesh jha
Fairer sex is also the crueler sex and also the kinder sex
Oct 14
Swati
I agree with Surya.
You cannot generalise.
Stereotyping based on a couple of incidents or surveys is not a very sensible exercise !
Anywyz, as far as the topic is concerned both men & women are equally capable of cruelty and kindness. There is no 'more' or no 'less' in this.
It depends on person to person, human to human..for the degress of kindness and cruelty he/she exhibits.
Oct 14 (2 days ago)
Fire.Bird
since women understand emotions better than men( n hence know how to distort them to taheir advantange), i somehow agree that the 'Fairer sex is also the crueler sex'
Oct 14 (2 days ago)
ĊåŞ
Nice Hair Fire
Oct 14
Praveen
Technically speaking I can't make a conclusion that the fairer sex is also the crueler sex. Personally speaking I have always observed that the fairer sex has been the crueler sex & worse does not even recognize the cruelty.
The topic starter must know that women are said to be more emotionally *Intelligent* than men. So when they said emotionally *Intelligent* they did not, repeat DID NOT mean *more* emotional, just more emotionally ***INTELLIGENT*** - Get my drift???
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